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Make no mistake about it---if you decide to date a single mom, there are compromises that you are going to make that are far more of a price if you had simply dated someone else that was childless.
Whether or not they admit it, single moms view men that date them as a meal ticket and a means to an end to their lifestyle, and when the shit hits the fan, not obligated to you if you are not there for the children (which is often what they state in order to comfort and accommodate themselves with their own whims---it is often a mask for their own selfishness).
I go out with single dads and childless men alike, and some of the latter admit (while others appear) to be uncertain about the logistics of dating single moms. Of course you want to know when she is free, if she has the kids all the time and whether the dad is involved. Commit this list to memory and never ever utter a single one of them.
Don’t assume she’s not free when her kids are home. If you’re interested and want to see her, ask her out. They have a dad, regardless of whether he is in the picture, in the can, or in and out of the mental hospital. But if you explicitly ask these details on the first or second date you will appear reluctant about dating a woman with kids.
Plus, it tells her (and any other woman, for that matter) that she was your Plan B for the evening. But if you really want to see her, give her plenty of time to sort out her schedule. In fact, if you DON’T appear interested in her family she’ll think that you’re not into kids. When a guy laughs at my funny-kid story, or is sympathetic about my mom worries, I’m in. But if you tend to take turns picking up the bill, but she sometimes rearranges her life to get out of the house and pays for a babysitter so she can spend time with you, acknowledge that. Know that when she invites you over, it is more work for her than when you invite her over.
Yes, moms are really efficient and they’re used to doing a lot of cooking and cleaning.
For most single men, there are a volume of dating problems facing us if we decided to actually bother to date American women at all. Barring accident or horrendous disease---widowers---or single moms that are that way because of some other rare occurence, it's usually the result of piss poor decision making. up to risking pregnancy by not employing contraceptives and being irresponsible.
And if that's true, how in the world are they going to fulfill yours?
Most reconstituted families don't go through adversity very well, and at the nadir you if you don't hold up the threads of the relationship, you are shown the door.
You will never be completely viewed as an equal partner, but an on-call babysitter.
Avoiding that type of hollow relationship is the best thing you can do. They don't want to take the time for self-exploration to accept it.
Deep down, despite education and even possible success in the workplace, the lurking fear that they, single moms, are failures at a marriage or haven't made the best of choices for life-altering decisions that have left them embittered and even angry at men. Read the amount of barbs single moms have against men---the younger ones are volatile, the older ones take up the mantle of feminist causes---even to the point of fighting tooth and nail that women get screwed over in the mythic pay gap, to arguing that alimony should be a women's right, and not a gift And the of the darkest secrets, if that's the word, that single moms use their condition as a rationalization to be selfish about the things they do in daily life. "It's all for the children" becomes a sad cover for pettiness, bad money habits, addictions, and control-mongering.